The exchange students primary responsibility is to learn to be fluent in English. Activities that encourage this growth are highly recommended. Activities that inhibit this are discouraged and you should seek the assistance of the classroom teacher and Principal Nokes. Exchange students should become an integral part of the Trinity Host family.
Exchange families should talk with the Host families as soon as they have been paired together. An immediate area to discuss is whether or not the Host family has any family vacations planned and how you and/or they want to handle those times. If exchange students are to be included in previous plan family vacations that have been planned far in advance, then it is up to the exchange student and his/her family to accept the invitation. If they accept the invitation, the cost of the trip is to be considered and the student should pay for their portion of this trip. If they choose not to attend, then arrangements should be made for them to stay with another member of the school community while this vacation is taking place.
The normal food costs are included in the suggested Room and Board rate of $700.00 per month (negotiable between host and exchange family but should be decided prior to arrival). If the family is going out to dinner then this is part of the Room and Board. If the student chooses to go out to dinner with a different family, or to the movies or other such entertainment as part of their own social invitation (not those of the family) then these costs are born to the exchange student and his/her personal funds.
American children often have to do chores or earn money for extra things. The exchange student is expected to take his/her place in the family and follow the norms of the family.
Students should not have their own cell phone. If they do it should be in the possession of the host family and only used once a week to contact home. Internet should also be limited to once a week for conversations with home or with other friends. This type of communication is HIGHLY discouraged. Boundaries should be established that encourage the student to speak English. You are spending valuable money to have your child experience and speak in the American culture, any time in their native language is detrimental to learning the language fluently.
Exchange students must follow the family decisions on events or activities outside of the home, the same as your own children. In addition, they are not to associate with only other exchange students except on a limited basis. A normal adjustment time is about one month. Should unusual disconnect continue between the exchange student and the Host family, you should contact Principal Nokes and have a conference over the concerns. But be patient. Time heals many things. Get them as actively involved as possible.
The host family is not to give more or less attention to helping the exchange student. The exchange student is responsible to go to the teacher or Principal Nokes to get additional help if needed academically. Fr. Jose Millan is also available for help. The Host family's own son/daughter should help at first but after a normal 'break-in' period, about one month. The exchange student should be independent and working the same as the other children and taking ownership of their grades.
Visits from exchange families is highly discouraged. Even Christmas and Easter, as special as they are, should not be times for visits from exchange families.
Exchange students should not be spending more than what would be expected in your own home from your own children on activities and a social life. Granted, if they are buying gifts for later or souvenirs, these would be exceptions.
Exchange students are very welcome to participate in the school extra curricular activities. Programs outside of the school are a decision that the Host family and the Exchange student have to discuss. The costs of these programs are the responsibility of the Exchange student, but the travel to get them is a great concern for some host families. This must not put an undue burden on the Host family and the Host family has the final decision as to whether an Exchange student can participate in these additional programs.
Boy School Sports: American football, cross country, basketball, wrestling, baseball, track and field.
Girl School Sports: Volleyball, cross country, basketball, softball, track and field.